Going out with at times is too difficult for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via these, many singles still think it an almost impossible task to find their loved ones, develop and maintain some satisfying intimate relationship.
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become cognizant of a host of factors that drive you to fail in your relationships. Could it be your attitudes towards the other sex? May possibly these be your fears and needs which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these come to be messages you internalized from a young age about how family relationships “should” look like – email which now, as an adult, come back to haunt you?
It is as soon as you ask yourself these – and also other – questions; when you glimpse inwards and observe your self; and when you develop ones Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think profession approach partners and associations.
Time and again I find singles who, without even knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in family relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they do not know what they need to change in order to succeed next time around.
Taking obligations for your success or failing at relationships is a key to making a significant modification leading to success. It is only when you take responsibility and be truly motivated to understand, for good, what hinders your tries that you embark on the road to success.
It can be as if meeting “the correct person” stays only a dream. Many singles lodge to hiring personal coaches, advisors or dating experts with the task of corresponding them with the “right” someone, convincing themselves that they are just too busy to look, investigation and find.
They therefore resort to finding one and thousand excuses to justify their failures, in no way the least is: shortage of time. Resorting to dating services is one way to not take task for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my singular responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
May well these be unrealistic targets and fantasies about partners and relationships which travel you to expect the difficult (and blame your lovers time and again)? May this be your understanding of reality, being determined that “your way” from thinking, feeling and executing things is always “the right way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
Consequently, it makes no significant difference on how many dates each goes and how many relationships that they attempt to develop: they fail over and over again, for the simple factor that they just never take the time to understand what they do which harms their attempts.
But is it seriously so? Is it really a shortage of time that inhibits all of them from finding the right person? And could it be that even when they meet a potential spouse many singles just have no idea of how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be that they’re unaware of the many ways in which they sabotage their attempts at intimacy?
Self-Awareness might be the only route you haven’t taken to date in your attempts to find a partner with whom to develop a booming intimacy. Paradoxically enough, could potentially be the only road which can take your there.